Words

Words

Though spring begins slowly and tentatively, it grows with a tenacity that never fails to touch me.  The smallest and most tender shoots insist on having their way, coming up through ground that looked, only a few weeks earlier, as if it would never grow anything again.  The crocuses and snowdrops do not bloom for long.  But their mere appearance, however brief, is always a harbinger of hope, and from those small beginnings, hope grows at a geometric rate.  The days get longer, the winds get warmer, and the world grows green again.

–Parker J. Palmer, Let Your Life Speak:  Listening for the Voice of Vocation, 2000

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The hardest thing about really seeing and really hearing is that then you really have to do something about what you have seen and heard.

–Frederick Buechner, as quoted in In Constant Prayer (page 71) by Robert Benson, 2008

Listening · Words

Words

Listening is noting what, when and how something is being said. Listening is distinguishing what is not being said from what is silence. Listening is not acting like you’re in a hurry, even if you are. Listening is eye contact, a hand placed gently upon an arm. Sometimes, listening is taking careful notes in the person’s own words. Listening involves suspension of judgment. It is neither analyzing nor racking your brain for labels, diagnoses, or remedies before the person is done relating her symptoms. Listening, like labor assisting, creates a safe space where whatever needs to happen or be said can come.

— Allison Para Bastien (found on http://www.listen.org/Templates/quotes_caring.htm)

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Words

What we see, and like to see, is cure and change.  But what we do not see and do not want to see is care, the participation in the pain, the solidarity in suffering, the sharing in the experience of brokenness.  And still, cure without care is as dehumanizing as a gift given with a cold heart.

–Henri J.M. Nouwen, Out of Solitude, 1974

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Words

The way this world works, people are very apt to use the words they speak not so much as a way of revealing but, rather, as a way of concealing who they really are and what they really think, and that is why more than a few moments of silence with people we do not know well are apt to make us so tense and uneasy.  Stripped of our verbal camouflage, we feel unarmed against the world and vulnerable, so we start babbling about anything just to keep the silence at bay.  But if we can bear to let it be, silence, of course, can be communion at a very deep level indeed.

–Frederick Buechner, The Hungering Dark, 1969.

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Words

Today is former President Jimmy Carter’s birthday. These are his words:

“A strong nation, like a strong person, can afford to be gentle, firm, thoughtful, and restrained. It can afford to extend a helping hand to others. It is a weak nation, like a weak person, that must behave with bluster and boasting and rashness and other signs of insecurity.”

Listening · Words

Words

“Words are medicine too….Words can harm…just as the wrong medicine can harm. But words can also heal.”

Even the smallest utterance is an encouragement and an invitation to respond. Our words open intricate channels of relationship. Each time we speak, our words are alive with energy. Every word that passes our lips, every phrase and sentence we utter, has power. The words you share with me touch my brain, affect my mind, and help shape my soul. Your sentences and gestures, the tone of your voice, the language you choose—all carry the potential for healing and growth.

Souls in the Hands of a Tender God, Craig Rennebohm with David Paul, 2008

Listening · Words

Words

…being truly listened to is a rare experience for many of us and to be listened to attentively and respectfully can be very empowering.

–Victoria Field in Writing Works by Gillie Bolton, Victoria Field and Kate Thompson, 2006